What does it take for us to make a life change. Why is it that we so often seem stuck in a never ending pattern of attempting to handle the world’s burden and then being surprised when it all falls apart.
Just Do It
Let’s stop asking why. Let’s just make the change. Have you always wanted to return to school to finish that
In hindsight, I’m not sure why I ever shared my goal. However, I remember looking at her incredulously. Before she verbalized her pronouncement, I was concerned about my chances. But, as soon as she canned the idea, on my behalf. I was incensed. What gave her the right to hear my dream and kill in less than 10 seconds flat. I wanted to make a life change, and at that moment, she was part of the problem.
Why Do We Share Our Life Changes
Why in the world, did I ever share the life change I wanted to make with this friend? Thankfully, her quick dismissal gave me enough of a kick to think to myself, “I’ll show you”. But, later I wondered. Why did I even share that life’s goal with her? I made a mental note to keep my future plans to myself, where this particular friend was concerned. That’s been over 10 years, 1 Ph.D., and a tenured professorship ago. But, honestly, our life changes are about our own personal goals, agenda, and needs. So, naturally, we don’t have to share them with everyone.
Who To Share With
Alistair Horscroft suggests that 7 seconds can change your life. Although 7 seconds isn’t a lot of time, I can understand that. The next time you’re on the verge of sharing that special dream or big life change you make, I suggest you take a few seconds to ask yourself, is this person worthy of this special information I’m anxious to share. We can’t share everything with everyone. There are things I can’t wait to tell my mother. Then, I have other things, I hope she never discovers. We’re allowed to be picky with our information. In fact, we’re allowed to be picky with who we choose to befriend.
To Celebrate or Not To Celebrate
Okay, when I have a major victory, I like to celebrate. Who doesn’t. Gee, I really didn’t want this post to be a negative one. But, here goes. We also have to pick and choose what victories we share with what people. I’m not sure that last sentence made sense. But, in my head, it rings true. The friend struggling to find a job, might not be in a frame of mind to hear about your latest promotion, perks, or trivial complaints. I know we would like to think, hey…I’m having a major life change here. You should want to know about it. But, timing is everything and sensitivity helps. I figure at some point, we get just the right combination to get it all together.
If you’ve had a major life change, you want to share, let me know about it. I promise you, I’ll be excited for you. No worries. Head over to my contact page and drop me a line.